Ohmahgah. You know when your eyes are bigger than your stomach? When you overcommit? When you stagger under the weight of the thing you just publicly declared you were going to do? No? You don’t know that thing? Of course not. But let me explain to you that to the rest of us, this happens […]

Your pleasure is a powerful energy in this world. You have the ability to experience bliss, joy, comfort, release, and transcendence….all by yourself. No flowers, no diamonds, no mountains, no shoes. Just you and your magical physical self. Your pleasure is one of the greatest treasures in your keeping. So manage it well, dear ones. […]

Sometimes we’re feeling heroic and badass and we are ready to set out on a bold EFBA journey and we are winning!!!  and amazing!!!!  and our eyelashes curl all on their own! Other days, the light is too bright and the trees are so aggressively green and the air is too goddamn airy and everything feels hard. On […]

There’s a time to buckle down.  To push yourself.  To tighten the belt. I did that a lot over the past few years.  Did you know that the first few years I lived in Portland, my daughter and I lived in a one-bedroom apartment?  She and I shared a bedroom, and it was tiny–our beds […]

My friend’s voice on the phone was panicked. “Oh my god!” she cried.  “I just listened to your call, and I’m freaking out because I think maybe I’m NOT an EFBA!  I’m actually a total loser!” I just laughed at her.  This woman is SUCH an efba, you guys.  And if you’re new around here, EFBA stands […]