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I’ve got five kids, I’m a queer feminist, and I just might be the only life coach in the world who doesn’t believe in the Law of Attraction.

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This is why you need to schedule something off in the future to look forward to...

I waited MONTHS for this

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*My Story

You will not believe where I am writing you from. There’s a ceiling fan whirring, I’m lying on an antique mahogany sleigh bed, and outside my window I can see blue sky, deep green, and tall palm trees. It seems unfathomable, but I am in Hawaii. The Big Island, in fact, and I’m here for […]

How we created traditions for our beautiful blended family

The best tradition for our blended family

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When I fell in love and moved to Canada a few years ago, my new husband Nick and I joined our families to create the big beautiful blended family we have right now. The joy is bigger, and the challenges are bigger too– and those challenges turn up with extra intensity around the holidays. Different […]

If you're getting a lot of pushback from the people around you, they might be jerks-- BUT it might be that darned apology energy.

Is your apology energy sabotaging you?

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*Relationships

Have you ever made a perfectly reasonable request— for a raise, or for help with a project— and been met by a ridiculous, blustery, over-the-top negative response? Did it go so badly, in fact, that you felt stupid and wrong for having dared to ask in the first place? Now, maybe the person you were […]

We all hit the swamp. But don't move in there.

You are not made for the swamp

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“I’m in this swamp,” she said. “And I keep slogging along, but it just keeps getting stickier and muddier.” Oh, yes, I thought. I know this place. I know it well. You know how sometimes you hit a perfect storm? You’ve been hopeful and brave and you set out to do something big– and now […]

Don't dismiss your yearnings as silly. They might be trying to steer you somewhere amazing.

What if your yearnings are embarrassing?

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Last week we talked about our yearnings, and I made the fairly scandalous declaration that your YEARNINGS are pointing you toward your own magic. This makes sense, surely, if you long for things like justice, freedom, clean water, and worldwide healing. If you yearn to be a human rights attorney or a yoga teacher, you’re in […]

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