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I’ve got five kids, I’m a queer feminist, and I just might be the only life coach in the world who doesn’t believe in the Law of Attraction.

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Picture me in 2015. I’m a happy solo mom, living in Portland, and after years of struggle, I finally feel like I have MADE it. My little girl is blooming and thriving. My shaky little business, which I started with a foolhardy amount of risk and moxie, has grown up to be a steady and […]

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Life Is Beautiful

Hello dear kindred spirits, oh you of the Big Feelings and tender heart. You with the big dreams and the thin skin. You with the wild gifts and the wild longings. I’m thinking about you in this season. How you might be feeling just the tiniest bit floored and overwhelmed and scattered and bewildered and […]

The Best Communication Tool You’ve Never Heard Of

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Today I want to give you a communication tool you can put to use right away in your marriage, partnership, or workplace. It’s a fork. But it’s also the best communication tool we’ve ever learned and has saved my marriage more times than you might believe. My husband Nick and I swear by it. We […]

I’m scared of everything.

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Life Is Hard

So yesterday, I was listening to Glennon Doyle’s new podcast, We Can Do Hard Things. The first episode was about anxiety, and I was so curious because I have always wanted to know what it was like to have Actual Anxiety, as opposed to just being a scaredy-cat all the time. Like me. But it […]

I took my rage to the ocean

I took my rage to the ocean

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Oh my friends, I have been wondering what I could possibly write to you after this week’s attempted coup in the US Capitol. I’ve swung from rage to exhaustion but mostly I feel so— um— what was I saying— DISTRACTED. I’m jumpy, I can’t concentrate on anything, and I’ve written 47 drafts of this missive […]

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